Are you an INFJ, or know someone who is? Struggling to understand their needs? Don’t worry! Here’s a guide to caring for your INFJ and helping them to be their best:
Connection. INFJs are people people, even though they’re introverts, and what makes them the healthiest are good connections with others. Without this, INFJs begin to lose their sense of purpose and drive. Understand that having connections to those around them will maintain their sense of value and enjoyment of life. They will naturally seek these out and are often drawn to socially focused professions as well.
Meaningful relationships. This goes with Connection, but to take it a step further, INFJs need close relationships where they get to be themselves. People who truly understand them bring out the best because often, this type can repress their true feelings and needs in order to take care of others. Relationships where they can enjoy themselves and you enrich them the most. A good relationship should include honesty, intimacy, and fun.
Respect. INFJs need to feel respected and valued, or they won’t bother to share their inner world with you. The complex interchange of intuition and emotion can be a difficult landscape to share with others, so if you don’t act like you value the INFJ’s input or perspective, you’ll never get to see it. They are intelligent and put a lot of deep thought into whatever they’re expressing and need to feel the value and respect they deserve for the time they’ve put into their endeavors.
Time to be alone and time to connect. Being introverts, INFJs do need their alone time to process thoughts and emotions without being responsible for someone else’s feelings. However, when they’ve finished recharging, they’re going to want to come out and reconnect with others. Utilizing their auxiliary Fe keeps them in balance, and they can only do this through interacting with other people.
Intimacy. These types do not like to be isolated or feel disconnected. Many INFJs love to connect through physical touch or closeness, so if you’re in a romantic relationship with one, be sure to have a lot of cuddle time. Mental and intellectual connection is also extremely important. If you are a single INFJ, remember that you seek to share an intimate connection with a partner that includes body, mind, and heart. Don’t compromise!
Good boundaries. INFJs can feel taken advantage of by others at times, so they need to learn to develop healthy boundaries and the ability to say no. Others can help by respecting the INFJ’s needs and not pressing them when they’ve expressed a boundary. Just because these types are willing to help others doesn’t mean it’s their responsibility to help you. Help them by helping yourself from time to time. Don’t forget to let your INFJ know that you’ll take care of them, too!
Logical, but compassionate, reasoning. INFJs aren’t stupid. They need to know why something works the way it does. But they also need the end result to take others into consideration. If you present an argument to an INFJ, be prepared for a thoughtful, logical analysis. Also be aware of how your position will affect others, because your INFJ certainly will!
Allowance. A lot of the time, INFJs feel they need to be something for someone all the time. Allow yours to be who they truly are around you and encourage them to do so. Someone who doesn’t care for themselves first won’t be a very effective helper, so remind your INFJ that it’s okay to take care of their own needs first. Relationships shouldn’t always feel like work.
A lighthearted, silly perspective to balance their seriousness. INFJs can let themselves get too serious, so play with them and remind them how to have fun once in awhile! You’ll bring out their playful side and they will thank you for it. If you can, try not to weigh your INFJ down too much with worries and concerns. They get plenty of that from themselves.
A creative outlet. Doesn’t matter what it is. An INFJ’s logical and internally structured tertiary Ti will lend itself well to organizing the details while dominate Ni is free to create a landscape of possibilities. NFs have a unique perspective on the world, so encourage your INFJ to express it in whatever way they choose! Try a new hobby or craft together. They’ll love the chance to bond with others over a new activity.
Keep these things in mind and your relationship should be much smoother! Feel free to add below if you’re an INFJ and want to share more!